Episode 258: Triggers - Why they are so hard, and how to manage them better

In today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does. </p><br /></p>I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm.</p><br /></p>We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment.</p><br /></p>I share specific thoughts and actions you can use to calm yourself, reframe your reactions, and approach the situation with more clarity and compassion. </p><br /></p>Plus, I’ll walk you through some reflective questions to process the deeper layers of what happened and how to heal from it. </p><br /></p>Tune in for a deeper understanding of emotional triggers and how to handle them in a way that supports your relationship and your own well-being.</p><br /></p><br /></p><strong><u>Also mentioned in this episode; </u></strong></p><br /></p>Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass - happening February 17th. Learn more and sign up for free here:<a href="https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals"> https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals</a></p><br /></p>How to be Married Program - opening for enrollment on February 17th - learn more here: <a href="https://drchavonne.com/htbm/">https://drchavonne.com/htbm/</a></p>

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Episode 258: 5 Things Every Couple Must Get Right for a Strong, Lasting Marriage

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. </p><br /></p>In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection.</p><br /></p>I cover:</p><br /></p><ul><li>How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree)</li><li>The money conversations that prevent stress and resentment</li><li>Navigating family dynamics, boundaries, and personal space</li><li>Conflict resolution strategies that actually work</li><li>Aligning your long-term vision so you grow together, not apart</li></ul><br /></p>If you want a marriage that’s built to last, don’t miss my upcoming <strong>Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass</strong> on February 17th! This live session will give you the tools and insights to strengthen your relationship at any stage.</p><br /></p><strong>Register now:</strong> <a href="https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/">https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/</a></p><br /></p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode:</p><br /></p><a href="https://vimeo.com/941799351?share=copy">Communication Styles Masterclass</a></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/attachment-recording">Attachment Styles Masterclass</a></p><br /></p><br /></p>

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Episode 257: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To

In this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: <em>Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To.</em> Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire.</p><br /></p><h3>What You’ll Learn:</h3><br /></p><ul><li>The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner’s flaws while downplaying your own need for growth.</li></ul><br /></p><ul><li>How self-awareness and accountability can create deeper connection, trust, and teamwork in your relationship.</li></ul><br /></p><ul><li>Practical steps to embody the qualities of a great partner, such as patience, kindness, empathy, and reliability.</li></ul><br /></p><ul><li>Small, intentional actions that lead to big shifts in your marriage.</li></ul><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program - opens for enrollment on February 17th. This program teaches you the 6 most essential skills all couples need to not only become a great partner, but to build a lasting, fulfilling, and joyful marriage that thrives through every season of life. Learn more here: <a href="https://drchavonne.com/htbm/">https://drchavonne.com/htbm/</a></p>

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Episode 256: All Things Marriage and All Things You

Welcome to the NEW podcast! We’re shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future.</p><br /></p>Marriage isn’t just about the partnership; it’s deeply tied to <em>how you show up as an individual</em>. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and fulfillment you experience in your relationship.</p><br /></p>In this episode, we explore what it truly means to show up for your marriage by diving into five foundational areas of self-awareness and growth.</p><br /></p>These five areas come together to shape your role in the relationship and define the experience you create—not just for your partner, but for yourself.</p>As we explore these concepts, ask yourself: <em>What does my best self look like in this marriage? What do I want to contribute to this partnership, and how can I show up in a way that reflects that?</em></p><br /></p>This is the work that creates real transformation—from the inside out. Let’s dive in and uncover what showing up as your best can mean for your marriage and your life.</p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode, my new program, How to Be Married. Read all about it here: <a href="https://drchavonne.com/htbm/">https://drchavonne.com/htbm/</a></p>

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Episode 255: Breaking Negative Patterns in Your Marriage

Does it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again? </p><br /></p>It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles.</p><br /></p>In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free.</p><br /></p>I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driven to try to solve issues the same way over and over again.</p><br /></p>I explain the greatest key in actually changing things for the better and offer you the three most important areas to explore when it comes to your current patterns. </p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode: The Happy Marriage Checklist! The key to changing your patterns is being deeply aware of what they are. This checklist provides you with a complete self assessment process for you to uncover what you and your partner are doing that either brings you closer or drives you farther apart. </p><br /></p>Get your free checklist instantly by going here: <a href="https://drchavonne.com/checklist/">https://drchavonne.com/checklist/</a></p>

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Episode 254: Growing Together as a Couple

What does it mean to grow together as a couple? It’s not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you.</p><br /></p><strong>Here’s the thing:</strong> growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic.</p><br /></p>In this episode, we dig into:</p><ul><li>The <em>real</em> work anxious and avoidant partners need to focus on to grow individually and together.</li><li>Why setting clear goals and intentions for your growth is non-negotiable—and how to align those goals as a couple.</li><li>How to recognize when you’re making progress (and when you’re stuck), so you can celebrate wins and seek support when needed.</li><li>The delicate balance of respecting each other’s pace, without rushing or dragging your feet.</li><li>Why setbacks are inevitable—and how to handle them with trust, compassion, and resilience.</li></ul><br /></p>Growing together doesn’t mean you won’t stumble along the way, but it does mean committing to showing up—for yourself and for each other.</p><br /></p>I've created a brand new resource to help you and your spouse have an initial conversation about where you are and where you want to be as a couple.</p><br /></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/checklist/"><strong>Download my free "Happy Marriage Checklist: </strong></a><a href="https://drchavonne.com/checklist/" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0,0,0);"><strong>10 Essential Habits for Lasting Love" HERE</strong></a></p>

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Episode 253: Hard Conversations

Even though it's so easy to avoid them, hard conversations have the potential to move your life forward in the direction you want to go.</p><br /></p>Hard conversations can happen with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and anyone else you have an important relationship with.</p><br /></p>In this Episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down all aspects of having hard conversations. From your intentions and goals, to the barriers that get in the way, to how to have effective (yet hard) conversations.</p><br /></p>It is my hope that you see having hard conversations as a tool to live a more authentic and fulfilling life, and to experience more out of your marriage and intimate partnerships.</p><br /></p>As we end 2024 and begin 2025, these kinds of powerful conversations can literally change your life.</p><br /></p><strong><u>Also mentioned in this episode:</u></strong></p>Work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more about working together in my couples or individual coaching programs, visit my website: <a href="DrChavonne.com">DrChavonne.com</a></p>

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Episode 252: Getting Started

There are stages of changing your life. In this episode, I share with you the process of change, and offer the most important things to focus on when you are getting ready to change. </p><br /></p>I also share one of the biggest obstacles to your success - managing your emotions. I walk you through a process that helps you to understand, process and manage your emotions in way that fuels you to move forward instead of remaining stuck.</p><br /></p>Whatever you want to create for yourself in 2025 is totally possible for you. May this episode guide you and be one that you find incredibly helpful.</p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman - my 6 month group coaching program for women. Learn more here: <a href="https://drchavonne.com/wmw/">https://drchavonne.com/wmw/</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p>

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Episode 251: Emotional Fulfillment

What we all crave in our human existence is a sense of emotional fulfillment. We want to feel content, satisfied and happy.</p><br /></p>Often we seek emotional fulfillment inside a marriage or within other intimate relationships. Yet, when for various reasons, when those relationships are not fulfilling or there is constant strain, it can be difficult to know how to create emotional fulfillment in other areas of life.</p><br /></p>In this podcast episode, I'm essentially answering the question: "How do I create emotional fulfillment for myself when my marriage isn't happy?"</p><br /></p>I offer four specific areas and give you suggestions on how to think about emotional fulfillment in an expanded way.</p><br /></p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode:</p><br /></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/ywmwy2025/">The Well Made Woman Year</a>- <span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0,0,0);">This is a 4-session series where we set you up with a transformational goal that creates CHANGE in your life. We’ll create clear next steps for you and find new solutions to the biggest barriers keeping you stuck. You’ll walk away feeling clear, confident and prepared to make the internal shifts that you need for 2025 be a better year for you.</span></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/wmw/">The Well Made Woman Coaching Program</a> - <span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0,0,0);">This INCLUDES Your Well Made Woman Year, plus 6 months of weekly coaching and support as you grow and build the skills to create positive change in your marriage, life, or other relationships. You’ll become a more confident, calm, and empowered woman who has one of the BEST years of your life.</span></p><br /></p><br /></p>

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Episode 250: Choosing Yourself

What would it be like to truly choose yourself? To have an lived experience where you WANT you? You are a priority to you. You fully accept and love you?</p><br /></p>In this episode of the podcast, I invite you to overcome the specific obstacles that often stand in the way and prevent you from fully choosing yourself.</p><br /></p>It is my hope that you walk away completely inspired and more committed to YOU and your wellbeing.</p><br /></p><br /></p>Also mentioned in this episode:</p><br /></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/ywmwy2025/">December 16 -19: Your Well Made Woman Year 2025 4 Day Workshop</a></p><br /></p><a href="https://drchavonne.com/wmw/">The Well Made Woman 6-Month Program </a></p>

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