Are You Emotionally Intelligent? 10 Things Not to Do

This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about <em>their</em> insecurities, not you.</p><br /></p><br /></p>The episode wraps with <em>10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do.</em> From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Violetta breaks down how emotionally aware people thrive without letting their feelings take the wheel. Tune in to learn how to master emotional resilience and live your best, most balanced life.</p><br /></p>Got a juicy question or wild story? Dm Violetta at @violetbenson on Instagram for a chance to be featured in next week’s episode. Let’s laugh, learn, and glow up emotionally—hit play!</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:37:07

The Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too?</p>Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week's episode where we’re diving deep into a mind-blowing chapter from Mark Manson's "The Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Get ready for some serious truth bombs!</p>We’ll unravel how our brains are wired and how we can change that. Plus, we’ll discuss Manson’s Law of Avoidance and why you need to be super careful about what you believe, especially those tricky “repressed memories.”</p>And finally, the quest to find your true identity – the answer might surprise you. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a wild ride!</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:30:50

Are You Being Needy?

Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits. </p>Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest.</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:29:38

Dating Nightmares: First Dates From Hell

In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won’t believe. We’ll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love (or just plain chaos). </p><br /></p>We then end the episode with some dating advice about being the other woman and men with female best friends, you don't wanna miss it! </p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:56:24

That’s Not What Makes You a Mother with Whitney Port

In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from <em>The Hills</em> and <em>The City</em>, entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs.</p><strong>We discuss:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Navigating Infertility</strong>: Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five miscarriages, IVF, and her decision to seek surrogacy.</li><li><strong>Surrogacy Process</strong></li><li><strong>Redefining Self-Worth</strong>: How Whitney balances her identity and self-worth beyond fame and public opinion.</li><li><strong>Managing Anxiety</strong>: Insight into Whitney's personal tools for handling anxiety, from mindfulness to self-compassion.</li><li><strong>Balancing Personal and Public Life</strong>: Reflections on maintaining authenticity and boundaries in the public eye.</li><li><strong>Resilience in the Face of Loss</strong>: Whitney’s reflections on hope, healing, and finding strength in the face of grief.</li></ul><br /></p>And so much more!!! I also give you a fun intro about the date I am going on today :) enjoy!!!</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

01:29:18

How To Make Him Fall in Love

<strong><em>They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. </em></strong></p><br /></p>On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.</p>We discuss:</p><ul><li><strong>The Power of Praise</strong>: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.</li><li><strong>Be His Queen—Silently in Control: </strong>How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he’s "the man."</li><li>Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": <strong>Tips that turn <em>any</em> date into the one you want.</strong></li><li><strong>Boosting His Self-Esteem</strong>: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.</li><li><strong>Mastering His Heart </strong>by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.</li></ul><br /></p><strong>For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>subscribe</strong></a><strong> to the premium podcast </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p>Get ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:45:06

HE’S NOT YOUR PERSON SIS - LISTEN TO THIS

In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you’re not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you.</p><strong><u>What we discuss:</u></strong></p><ul><li>If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I’m going through it and someone’s <em>dusty</em> a&& son p*ssed me the F off!</li><li>The<strong> best advice</strong> my mum gave me when it comes to <strong>heartbreak</strong></li><li><strong>3 questions to ask yourself in the beginning of dating</strong></li><li>How <strong>your energy in the relationship reveals</strong> if they're right for you—and the kind of energy that signals they’re the one.</li><li>How to <strong>stop</strong> wasting time on people who aren’t showing up for you.</li><li>The <strong>key to a successful relationship</strong>: (hint: you need more than love)</li></ul>And so much more!! </p><br /></p><strong>For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>subscribe</strong></a><strong> to the premium podcast </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p>This episode will help you finally break the cycle of toxic relationships and demand the love you deserve. Trust me, you NEED to listen to this one if you want to save your love life—or finally find your soulmate/your person.</p><br /></p><strong><em>Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨</em></strong></p><br /></p><u>Today's episode is brought to you by:</u></p><ul><li><strong>ACORNS Investing</strong>: head to<strong> </strong><a href="https://www.acorns.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>acorns.com</strong></a><strong> </strong>or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future today!</li><li><strong>WANT Book: </strong><em>Buy your copy of this year’s hottest book, the instant New York Times bestseller WANT–available now wherever books are sold. Visit </em><a href="http://Dearmedia.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Dearmedia.com</em></a><em> and use code PODCAST for 20% off </em></li><li><strong>Harris Campaign</strong>: Choose a New Way Forward and visit <a href="https://kamalaharris.com/issues/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Kamalaharris.com/issues</a> to learn more</li></ul><strong>Get more content on:</strong></p><ul><li>Add podcast on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li>Add me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li>Add me on <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@violetbenson" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li></ul>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:38:06

October Tarot Reading - Pick A Card

Pick your colour, pick your path! In this special October tarot card reading, I’ve pulled out three different decks that predict the rest of your month—from your career to life to love! Each deck is tied to a colour that calls out to you. </p><br /></p><strong><u>Timestamps:</u></strong></p><em>Green</em> - 2:03</p><em>Pink - 12:51</em></p><em>Red</em> - 21:16</p><br /></p>Each colour holds a unique reading packed with guidance for the month ahead. So, <em>which one is speaking to you? </em></p><br /></p><strong>For more premium extra episodes+ad free episodes, </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>subscribe</strong></a><strong> to the premium podcast </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p><strong><em>Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨</em></strong></p><br /></p><u>Today's episode is brought to you by:</u></p><ul><li><strong>Ned: </strong>Become the best version of yourself and get 15% off Ned products with code <strong>ADULTING</strong>. Go to helloned.com/<strong>ADULTING </strong>or enter code <strong>ADULTING </strong>at checkout.</li><li><strong>Misunderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel: </strong>To listen to <em>MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel</em>, just search for “<em>MissUnderstood</em>” in your podcast app</li></ul>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:28:11

HITTING ROCK BOTTOM

If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—<u>this episode is for you!</u></p><br /></p><strong>This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for.</strong></p><br /></p>Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too.</p><strong><u>We discuss:</u></strong></p><ul><li>How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.</li><li>The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.</li><li>How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.</li><li>The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.</li><li>How to recognise when someone’s projecting their insecurities onto you.</li><li>How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.</li><li>And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. </li></ul><br /></p>We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. </p><strong>For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>subscribe</strong></a><strong> to the premium podcast </strong><a href="http://almostadulting.supercast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p>Trust me, you’re stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don’t miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for! <3</p><br /></p><strong><em>Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨</em></strong></p><br /></p><u>Today's episode is brought to you by:</u></p><ul><li><strong>Smalls</strong>: Head to <a href="http://Smalls.com/ADULTING" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Smalls.com/ADULTING</strong></a><strong> </strong>and use promo code <strong>ADULTING </strong>at checkout for 50<strong>%</strong> off your first order <strong><u>PLUS</u></strong> free shipping! </li><li><strong>Cookunity</strong>: Go to <a href="http://Cookunity.com/Adulting" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Cookunity.com/Adulting</strong></a> or enter code <strong>ADULTING </strong>before checkout for 50% off your first week.</li><li><strong>Misunderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel: </strong>To listen to <em>MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel</em>, just search for “<em>MissUnderstood</em>” in your podcast app</li></ul><br /></p><strong>Get more content on:</strong></p><ul><li>Add podcast on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li>Add me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li>Add me on <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@violetbenson" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li></ul>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:40:08

Decolonizing Trauma: Did You Choose Your Trauma? with Yemi Penn

Instead of colonising why don't we DEcolonise today? Trauma that is!</p>Join me in this transformative conversation with global thought leader and TEDx speaker, Yemi Penn, as we dive into alternative approaches to healing trauma. </p><br /></p>We explore powerful topics like:</p><ul><li>Decolonizing trauma: What it means and how it changes your healing journey.</li><li>Bending your reality: How to rewrite your narrative and create a thriving life post-trauma.</li><li>Facing adversity and why cultivating a mindset of curiosity and rebellion is necessary</li><li>Breaking toxic patterns: Tools and practices to disrupt negative behaviors.</li><li>Embracing discomfort: How leaning into vulnerability and discomfort can lead to profound personal growth.</li></ul>To get more information about Yemi along with her book, <em>Did You Get the Memo?--a </em>powerful book that explores reclaiming one’s story and turning pain into power. You can learn more about both at <a href="https://yemipenn.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">yemipenn.com</a>​ <a href="https://womenwithpurpose.org.au/people/yemi-penn/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Women With Purpose</a>)</p><br /></p>Tune in for practical insights and empowering strategies to transform your pain into strength.</p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>

00:54:50