Ep.029 - Twerk Out Your Trauma with Adam Robertson

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Adam Robertson describes himself as an Intuitive Multifaceted Mentor and Spiritual Rebel. <br /><br />Ever since he was a teenager he has been using his voice to advocate for wellness, suicide prevention, mental health awareness and people diving into their own personal development. <br /><br />Now he is a guide to many - utilising a number of holistic modalities and a strong connection to his own intuition. He travels around New Zealand holding workshops and facilitating spaces at wellness festivals. AND last year saw the creation of a brilliant new business called Twerkwerk International.<br /><br />Adam shares how a love for movement, particularly twerking, combined with all of his knowledge of holistic practices blended to become an incredible model. Where participants, in group workshops, are guided through somatic healing journeys by moving their booties!<br /><br />There are so many benefits to the classes that Adam is running- healthier relationship to your body, being in a safe, judgement-free community, the release of stagnant energy, movement of trauma through the body (particular for womb spaces, sexual trauma etc.), physical exercise, connection to the breath and your own energy AND they are a whole lot of fun!!<br />Adam’s personality absolutely shines in the work that he does and the way he views life. He is fun, insightful, incredibly authentic and truly sovereign in himself.<br /><br />This episode is a f*cking hoot, alright! So get ready for some belly laughs mixed in with some powerful wisdom!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome. <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a><br /><br /><strong>ADAM ROBERTSON</strong><br /><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.adamrobertson.co.nz">Website</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/adamtrobertson/">Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/twerkwerk_intl/">Twerkwerk Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.adamrobertson.co.nz/product-page/twerkwerk-tour">Twerkwerk Tour</a><br /><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:02:24

Ep.028 - Like a Baby Giraffe…

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week we explore some of the awkward, funny and messy moments that pop up during sex!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">You'll hear about Johnson's baby giraffe impressions, bodily fluids, messed up make up, funny sounds, and a whole lot more...</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">We are hear to tell you that it is all normal and part of the fun. So, don't let shame about normal human experiences ruin your pleasure and fun!<br /><br />We were blessed with some awesome listener feedback this week, including an email that got Kitty particularly purring!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome. <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a><br /><br /><strong>MENTIONED IN THE SHOW</strong></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.shopjo.com/products/salted-caramel-gelato-flavored-lubricant">JO Salted Caramel Lube</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/shazgoeswild/">Shaz Goes Wild</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://mobile.twitter.com/sandpapernumber">Sexy Suzy’s Ex</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:10:31

Ep.027 - Feeling Sexty

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This episode is an absolute banger. AND a total set up for poor Kitty who really doesn’t know what she is getting herself into (or what the topic even was prior to Johnson pressing record).<br />Johnson took full advantage of his bewildered co-host when he asked her to grab her phone and engage in a text conversation with him.<br />The first message was (from J to K)…<br />“Hey sexy.<br />Wanna know what I want to do with you right now?”<br />Needless to say she was feeling uncomfortable ASF!<br />However our Kitty is a trooper and she persisted.<br />With a wonderful outcome as it was a damn fine segue into this week’s topic.<br />SEXTING!!!<br />Nom nom nom.<br />It is HOT. And juicy. With some yummy shares and top tips for sexy messaging you are sure to enjoy getting amongst this one.<br /><br />Kitty reminds you to be safe out there with any explicit content and Johnson gives some advice for taking the most delicious c*ck snaps. Apparently it’s ALL about the angles. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome. <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a><br /><br /><strong>MENTIONED IN THE SHOW</strong></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pots.4.peace/">Pots For Peace</a> - Customised Mugs</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/flightoftheconchords/">Flight of the Conchords</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:10:31

Ep.026 - Spontaneous & Responsive Desire

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic violence, suicide. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week Kitty opened up the space for an important topic in her share from the What’s Hot and What’s Not Hot segment. She spoke into emotional abuse in a relationship dynamic when the woman is the perpetrator. It is a major issue in our society with so many men being on the receiving end of bullying, harassment, threats and manipulation by their female partners. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Many studies now show that women have the same likelihood (some state even more) to be the perpetrator of domestic violence.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Raising awareness, for ALL areas that drastic change is needed, is something Kitty and Johnson are both passionate about. They hope that by speaking into important topics, such as these, it encourages others to reach out to friends, seek the support they may need or realise that they are not alone in their struggles. If you, or someone you know, is in a relationship where domestic abuse is present please seek some external help. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week’s episode is focused on the difference between “Spontaneous” and “Responsive” desire. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">We dive into these two desire styles and how they can appear in you, as well as your partner/s. This also correlates a lot with Emily Nagoski’s findings in her book, Come As You Are, about the different accelerators and brakes that people can have sexually.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Understanding more about how the environment, stress, sensory factors etc. can impact one person in a different way to another is so helpful to know!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">We continue the theme of listener shout outs this week (go check out Shaz and the awesome mission she is on here in New Zealand to raise awareness and money for mental health) and love getting your feedback. Keep it coming! And speaking of cumming… Kitty is still waiting for that mid-sex voice message! </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome. <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a><br /><br /><strong>MENTIONED IN THE SHOW</strong></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316">Come As You Are</a> by Emily Nagoski </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a38269167/spontaneous-responsive-desire/">“Understanding 'Spontaneous' and 'Responsive' Desire Can Help You Have More Sex”</a> by Gigi Engle :  </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/gigiengle/">Gigi Engle’s Instagram </a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/shazgoeswild/">Shaz’s Instagram</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:10:09

Ep.025 - Body Shakes & Slippery Snakes

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!  </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can’t wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Well, well. This is a particularly yummy episode.<br />Now that the SWME crew have got their head back into the podcast game it feels exciting and sexy and comforting to be back into it. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">The “What’s Hot and What’s Not?” section in itself when Kitty drops one word (without explanation) for her “What’s Hot?”…That word being BRUCE.<br />Who in the heck is Bruce you might be wondering?<br /><br />Well our Kitty tells us all about Bruce during this week’s topic- Non-penetrative intimacy.<br />Aptly named by Bruce himself as “Body Shakes and Slippery Snakes.” </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Hear all about Johnson and Kitty’s favourite expressions of intimacy that do not involve penetration and why they love them so much.<br />This episode is such a great reminder of how amazing connection and touch can be outside of society’s standard idea of sex. <br /><br />Our hosts encourage you to get creative, bring more presence and intention into intimacy and witness as it becomes even more magic. <br /><br />Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch!<br /><br />The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:14:16

Ep.024 - How Do We Do This Again?

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">KITTY AND JOHNSON ARE MOTHER TRUCKING BACK BABY!!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Gosh it has been a hot minute since the last episode.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">The SWME duo have had some mammoth life events that have needed looking after. They share some of this during this episode and extend an extremely heartfelt thank you to all of you listeners who have reached out and checked in on them during this time.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson is officially back in the country and the podcast is back in full swing. With some changes (Johnson may have landed his DREEEEEAAAAM JOB) the episodes will be coming out later in the week. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty and Johnson are VERY excited to be back spreading the conversations, laughs and endless awkward moments. They have some amazing guests lined up over the next few weeks.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week they dove into a fun topic all about… places outside of the bedroom to have sex.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">You get to hear some top tips from Johnson about beach sex and find out what happened when Kitty was engaged in some adult fun in the bathroom while everyone was at her house.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Got a sexy (outside the bedroom) story?? Send us a message, or better yet use the voice record option on the website and share all the juiciness. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Your usual fun SWME segments are back (although Kitty and Johnson had to get used to running the podcast again!). </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week Kitty may just have hit the jackpot and FINALLY guessed Sexy Suzy’s name. Maybe! You’ll have to listen in and find out. <br /><br />Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch!<br /><br />The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>STUFF WE MENTIONED<br /><br />SUPPORT<br /><br /></strong>USA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">UK- CALM helpline: 0800 58 58 58 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Canada- Suicide Prevention Service: 1-833-456-4566 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Australia- Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">New Zealand- Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">India- Sneha India 24/7 helpline: 91 44 24640050 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">South Africa- Lifeline National Counselling Line: 0861-322-322 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

00:59:53

Ep.023 - Hot Saucy Kitty

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">TRIGGER WARNING: Depression, mental illness, suicide, drug addiction, child abuse, abuse. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week’s episode starts off with a “What’s Hot and What’s Not?” segment that is all kinds of ridiculous and all kinds of steamy. Johnson and Kitty talk about the most highly recommended spread for your toast, an aggravating baby blue Aston Martin, unexpected body hair growth and Kitty gets slightly carried away when describing a delicious recent sexcapade. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">THEN…gosh, this is one of those episodes that really hits you in the heart.<br />Kitty had no idea Johnson was throwing that hot sauce on her.<br />And, boy, did he douse it goooood. Real good. He sauced her up so much there are still remnants of sticky, spicy sauce on the walls. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">This week our special guest is the one and only ever-purring Kitty. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">He asks the realest of questions and, in true SWME podcast fashion, Kitty shows up completely. She gives incredibly honest answers about her upbringing, her struggles with mental health and self-worth. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson asks about her insight into shame, liberation, connection and overcoming major life challenges. We hear about how Kitty was exposed to abuse, mental illness and addiction at an early age and spent many years battling extremely low self-worth and self-esteem issues. As a teenager and young adult she struggled with suicidal thoughts and was in and out of depression.<br />After her second baby she was also diagnosed with pre and post-natal depression and was supported to identify post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms from living in a home with family violence as a teenager. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">We really get to know Kitty and see why she is so passionate about the work she does now- as part of the podcast and business she runs with Johnson, as well as in her holistic wellness business and youth work. She shares with us some helpful pieces of advice, from her own lived experience, and also from now being in a space where she supports clients in their holistic wellness. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">For this episode we invite you to open your hearts and take parts of what Kitty shares to integrate into your own life.<br />We all have had struggles at some point in our lives and it is a core value with SWME to create safe spaces where everybody is welcomed and free to be themselves.  </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are mentally battling right now then this is your reminder that you are not alone. There is a list of support contact details below. Please reach out and seek safety with a trusted person in your life or get in touch with Kitty and Johnson. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">The episode is wrapped up with another great round of “Just Quiz on My Face”, as well as some yummy listener feedback. <br /><br />Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch!<br /><br />The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>STUFF WE MENTIONED<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://www.eventbrite.co.nz/e/ignite-connection-workshop-tickets-394789204137">In-Person Workshops</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Badass%C2%AE-Doubting-Greatness/dp/0762447699">You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero</a><br /></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><strong>SUPPORT<br /><br /></strong>USA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">UK- CALM helpline: 0800 58 58 58 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Canada- Suicide Prevention Service: 1-833-456-4566 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Australia- Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">New Zealand- Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">India- Sneha India 24/7 helpline: 91 44 24640050 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">South Africa- Lifeline National Counselling Line: 0861-322-322 </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/sexwithmyexpodcast">Our Links</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:21:07

Ep.022 - Hooking Up With Dr. Aditi Paul

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!<br /><br />Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can’t wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. <br /><br />This week Kitty & Johnson are joined by the extremely intelligent and gorgeous Dr. Aditi Paul who is a mixed-methods researcher, professor and author based in New York City.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">She uses her multi-disciplinary background in computer science and communication studies to examine the impact of using human-centred technologies like social networking sites and online dating services.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Aditi’s research has been published in top academic journals and has been featured in prominent media outlets such as The Washington Post, Women’s Health, The Telegraph UK, Huffington Post and NBCNews.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">“What’s Hot and What’s Not?” features saucy NY City weather and those tight, tight man shorts as well as videos of Kitty’s butt fitting into her tight, tight shorts. We all share our love for post-orgasm cuddles and Aditi talks about her 5 minute whirlwind experience of Feeld.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson’s What’s Not Hot is… penis shaming and we are getting right up on board that train. Let’s go ahead and say ALL body shaming of ALL genders is a big NOT HOT from us in the SWME podcast family.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">To kick-off the whole conversation about the hook-up culture Johnson tells an incredibly confusing and hilarious story about his awkward first experience of hooking up when he was 12.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Aditi shares some fascinating data that she has collected through her research. Even the way we talk about “hooking up” (as in engaging in some type of sexual act) differentiates between genders, with female-identifying using much more generalised language and male-identifying using explicit descriptions in conversation.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">As part of Aditi’s study she looked at the indicators of sexual assault and how individual’s identified acts within their own personal experiences. She was surprised to find that 1 in 4 males stated that they had been touched inappropriately without consent by an intimate partner and even more surprised to find that the majority of the time this is not being identified as sexual assault.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson speaks about the transition that a lot of us go through from conquest mode to more consciousness around intimacy. In her research with Gen X individuals one of the major differences Aditi found was how much more openly and curiously this generation is exploring their sexual orientation. There are a huge percentage (more than ever before) who are identifying outside of being straight. Their awareness of sexuality and ability to access more information about it is a lot more vast and varied.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">The theme for just Quiz on My Face is… animal sex. Aditi jumps on in and guesses alongside Kitty.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Our gorgeous friend Kelly Gordon from Hot Octopuss pops in to help to announce the winners from our competition!</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Dr. Aditi gives possibly the best answer ever when Kitty asks her what message she would love to leave behind… “Just fu*k shit up. As fast as you can. As badly as you can. As maniacally as you can. Just run yourself to the absolute motherfu*king ground and then build yourself up from there because that’s how you know yourself.”<br /><br />Enjoy! <br /><br />Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. <br /><br />The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners.   </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>STUFF WE MENTIONED<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://www.eventbrite.co.nz/e/ignite-connection-workshop-tickets-394789204137">In-Person Workshops</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.hotoctopuss.com">Hot Octopuss Toys</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/hotoctopuss/">Follow Hot Octopuss on Instagram</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>CONNECT WITH DR. ADITI<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://www.draditipaul.com">Website</a> <br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/aditi.paul">Facebook</a><br />T<a href="https://www.twitter.com/iamaditipaul">witter</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/iamaditipaul">Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.draditipaul.com/book.html">Book - "The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture: Dating Apps, Hookup Scripts, and Sexual Outcomes,"</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com ">Our Website</a> <br /><a href="www.instagram.com/sexwithmyex_podcast ">Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.twitter.com/Sex_With_My_Ex">Twitter</a><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexwithmyexpodcast">Facebook</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

01:07:25

Ep.021 - Jealousy & Sexy Superheroes

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!<br /><br />Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can’t wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. <br /><br />Holy guacamole Batman!<br /><br />Johnson starts off the episode with a banger for “What’s Hot?” as he shares a recent sexcapade from an evening at a swingers club. He definitely sets you up with some lovely, yummy visuals as he describes his antics.<br /><br />This week Kitty & Johnson talk about… jealousy. And also about compersion which is essentially the word to describe the feelings of joy, excitement and bliss for someone else.<br />They share their views on where jealousy comes from, how to recognise it and ways to manage these feelings and communicate them if in partnership.<br />Within this discussion they share personal experiences of having both jealousy and compersion and where they believe the feelings stemmed from.</p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">The message around mindfulness is so prominent within this topic because the better you feel about yourself the less you are going to compare yourself to others or worry about your loved one being unfaithful. The other recurring theme is the importance of honest, open, heart-led communication. With yourself and also with your partner if you are in a relationship. Having well established values, boundaries and expectations is essential if there is a desire to reduce feelings of insecurity of jealousy.<br /><br />Johnson shares some interesting data that states that men and women both experience jealousy but it shows up differently. In men it most commonly shows up as sexual jealousy, and for women it tends to be emotional jealousy.  </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Kitty & Johnson speak about their own past experiences of how jealousy manifested and how it impacted them emotionally, physically and mentally. And also how so many external factors (especially if left unaddressed in partnership) can impact our perception and lead to feelings of resentment, unworthiness and division. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">There is a real emphasis on having raw, open, sometimes slightly uncomfortable conversations with your partner, new potential partner, friend with benefits (and everything in between). The more that is spoken about in a respectful space, the more you can avoid miscommunication, assumption and disappointment.  </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson opens up the conversation around privacy and partners checking one another’s phone, email, social media etc.<br /><br />As promised this week’s theme for “Just Quiz on My Face.” Is… SEXY SUPERHEROES. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Our gorgeous friend Kelly Gordon from Hot Octopuss jumps into the episode to tell us all about the amazing sex toy brand she works for who are wonderful advocates for inclusivity, as well as having the most incredible high tech toys. One of which is the Plex which is up for grabs with our competition.<br /><br />We share some more of your sexy pickup lines and some from the Hot Octopuss crew.<br />Don’t forget to enter!! It closes at 6am (NZST) on Saturday the 20th of August.<br />Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message. As well as heading on over to Instagram to follow us AS WELL AS Hot Octopuss. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">You do not want to miss out of this prize. The toy that’s up for grabs is YUM. All gender and sexual orientation inclusive. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! <br /><br />Enjoy! <br /><br />Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. <br /><br />The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners.   </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>STUFF WE MENTIONED<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://www.eventbrite.co.nz/e/ignite-connection-workshop-tickets-394789204137">In-Person Workshops</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.hotoctopuss.com">Hot Octopuss Toys</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/hotoctopuss/">Follow Hot Octopuss on Instagram</a><br /></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com ">Our Website</a> <br /><a href="www.instagram.com/sexwithmyex_podcast ">Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.twitter.com/Sex_With_My_Ex">Twitter</a><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexwithmyexpodcast">Facebook</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

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Ep.020 - Sex Positive You Say?

<p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!<br /><br />Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can’t wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. <br /><br />Well, well. Here we are 20 episodes into this juicy podcast journey and this week we chat all about what it is to be SEX-POSITIVE.<br /><br />We are super proud of our co-host Kitty this week as she shares her “What’s Hot”. She has just had an interview released by a local TV production who have put together a project advocating for sexual wellness. She is part of a small group of practitioners within the sexuality space that have shared their messages to help normalise these conversations and offer support and guidance to those who need it. </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Johnson & Kitty speak into the history of this sex positive movement we are all balls DEEP in and describe how being sex-positive is a mind-set. It is a way of living that recognises and appreciates all people as sexual beings. It is an attitude that is free from judgement towards yourself or others and that breaks down the stigma around sexuality in society.<br /><br />Being sex-positive isn’t about ticking off items on a bucket list (although it may be part of it) but it is more about being authentically yourself and accepting others as they are too. Whether you are obsessed with vanilla sex, asexual or into BDSM- it makes no difference. As long as you are choosing your truth and explorations for the right reasons.<br /><br />Kitty & Johnson recognise each and every one of the SWME podcast listeners as part of this sex-positive culture which is much needed in society. They believe there has been too much shame for too long in this space which has had a devastating impact on so many people.<br /><br />Johnson also shares some information that hasn’t been public knowledge - UNTIL NOW! in the hope that it might help others out there on their journey.<br /><br />Johnson brings in a theme  for this week’s “Just Quiz on My Face” segment as he asks Kitty three Shibari themed questions. Do you think her recent experiences of being a rope bunny have paid off or does Johnson catch her out? <br /><br />Don’t forget to enter our competition!! Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message. As well as heading on over to Instagram to follow us AS WELL AS Hot Octopuss. <br /><br />We share a couple of our AMAZING entries so far!!! <br /><br />You do not want to miss out of this prize. The toy that’s up for grabs is YUM. All gender and sexual orientation inclusive. <br /><br />P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! <br /><br />Enjoy! <br /><br />Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. <br /><br />If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. <br /><br />The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. <br /><br />Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners.   </p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Everyone is welcome! <br /><br /><a href="https://www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com/subscribe" target="_blank">Subscribe here!</a></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><strong>STUFF WE MENTIONED<br /><br /></strong><a href="https://www.eventbrite.co.nz/e/ignite-connection-workshop-tickets-394789204137">In-Person Workshops</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.hotoctopuss.com">Hot Octopuss Toys</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/hotoctopuss/">Follow Hot Octopuss on Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://barbaracarrellas.com">Barbara Carrellas</a><br /><a href="https://www.missgigiengle.com">Gigi Engle</a><br /><a href="https://linktr.ee/jordanaezra">Jordana Ezra - The Queer Sex Coach</a><br /></p><p class="" style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><strong>WHERE TO FIND US<br /><br /></strong><a href="www.sexwithmyexpodcast.com ">Our Website</a> <br /><a href="www.instagram.com/sexwithmyex_podcast ">Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.twitter.com/Sex_With_My_Ex">Twitter</a><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexwithmyexpodcast">Facebook</a><br /><br />Please consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our <a href="https://www.patreon.com/sexwithmyexpodcast?fan_landing=true" target="_blank">Patreon page</a>.</p>

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